Just like with the steps for overcoming doubt, you want to start by identifying what fears you have. The easiest way to do this is to start asking yourself what negative thoughts you have about the type of people who have the body you dream of.
It’s comparable to a commonly held belief around wealth. People really want to have more money. But at the same time, they think that rich people are snobs. Well, if you think that rich people are snobs, then it’s likely that you don’t want to become a rich person because you don’t want other people thinking of you as a snob, so you avoid making money.
The same concept applies to health. If you see gorgeous women with slim bodies all over Instagram and dream of having that body and fashion styles, that’s great. But maybe you also have negative thoughts about these women. Maybe you think they aren’t as intelligent and you fear that looking good would mean people would treat you superficially. Maybe you think that if you slim down, you'll get too much unwanted attention. Maybe you think that beautiful women don’t have to lift a finger to get what they want, and you don’t want people to think that you aren’t someone who works hard.
These are just some examples, but it’s really important to check in with yourself. If you have any negative thoughts about healthy, beautiful women whom you admire, ask yourself how you can change the story of negativity into one of admiration. This is the way to step into your new identity with a smooth transition.
If you’ve started and stopped diets countless times and you’ve been losing faith in yourself, now’s the time to sit yourself down and ask: What are your doubts? What do you fear? It's not an easy exercise, but you’ll find invigorating confidence and clear determination to move forward with your goals.